Am I Polyamorous?

Can we love more than one partner equally? If you answered “no,” you’ve probably never been in a situation where it feels natural and right to want to be with both partners at the same time. In fact, many people have thought about having such a relationship at least once. This type of romantic and emotional connection is called polyamory. Simply put, polyamory involves having romantic relationships with more than one person at a time, with the knowledge and consent of all participants. Polyamory has nothing to do with cheating in a monogamous relationship, when one partner “has an affair” without the other’s knowledge.

The opposite of polyamory is the concept of monogamy. It involves having an exclusive romantic and sexual relationship with only one person at a time. However, most people actually fall somewhere in between monogamy and polyamory, as many people are neither fully monogamous nor fully polyamorous.

Polyamory can take many forms and levels of commitment depending on the psychological makeup of the individual. Some polyamorous people have a primary partner and occasionally have relationships with other partners. Some polyamorous people have multiple equal partners at the same time. It is important to note that for a polyamorous relationship to be successful, there must be open communication, honesty, and trust between all partners.

Each person may exhibit signs of polyamory depending on their circumstances. For example, this is significantly influenced by society's tolerance for this type of relationship, emotional and sexual satisfaction with the current partner, and the level of psychological predisposition to polyamory.

If you are reading this description, then there is definitely a chance): According to a 2019 study by the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, the vast majority of people, about 89%, at least sometimes think about non-monogamous relationships. This does not mean that nine out of ten people will become polyamorous, but it clearly indicates that the concept of monogamy is actually far from ideal for most people.

While most of us are in monogamous relationships, is this type of relationship really ideal for a harmonious life? Can polyamory provide more fulfilling and varied romantic experiences? To find out, take our simple 15-question test and find out how polyamorous you are.