Not at all. Often it's the opposite: people in high-responsibility positions seek the opportunity in BDSM to temporarily relinquish control and "turn off" their brain. It's a method of psychological relief, not a reflection of social weakness.
Yes, and that's perfectly normal. Your sexual identity is not a static structure. Results can be influenced by new experiences, the level of trust with a partner, or even your current emotional state.
This isn't a reason to break up, but a space for negotiation. BDSM is built on finding common ground. The test helps identify areas where you might align (e.g., in aesthetics or light dominance),even if your "extreme" roles don't match.