Horne–Ostberg Chronotype Test
Take the test1. Most people seem to be more aggressive and assertive than I am.
2. I have hesitated to make or accept dates because of shyness.
3. When the food served at a restaurant is not done to my satisfaction, I complain about it to the waiter or waitress.
4. I am careful to avoid hurting other people’s feelings, even when I feel that I have been injured.
5. If a salesperson has gone to considerable trouble to show me merchandise that is not quite suitable, I have a difficult time saying “No.”
6. When I am asked to do something, I insist upon knowing why.
7. There are times when I look for a good, vigorous argument.
8. I strive to get ahead as well as most people in my position.
9. To be honest, people often take advantage of me.
10. I enjoy starting conversations with new acquaintances or strangers.
How does assertiveness differ from ordinary politeness?
Politeness can be passive if you agree to inconvenient terms out of fear of offending. Assertiveness is "honest politeness." You respect others while clearly stating your boundaries and needs without sacrificing your interests for someone else's comfort.
Can one be too assertive?
If confidence turns into pressure, ignoring others' feelings, or hostility, it becomes aggression. True assertiveness always involves a balance between defending your rights and respecting the rights of others.
Does the level of assertiveness depend on culture or upbringing?
Yes, cultural norms and upbringing significantly influence communication styles. In some environments, directness may be mistaken for rudeness. The Rathus test helps you evaluate your communication effectiveness regardless of the cultural norms you grew up with.
