Codependency is a relatively common pattern of behavior that involves prioritizing the needs of others over your own. Most often, codependency manifests itself in romantic relationships, but codependent relationships involving relatives, friends, and even coworkers are not uncommon.
Various studies reveal that about half of American adults have significant signs of codependency in their relationship with their partner or loved ones. Codependency develops and manifests particularly clearly in relationships where one of the partners has some kind of addiction or a physical or psychological condition. Sometimes people with a high degree of codependency are physically abused, but more often they are emotionally abused by their partner.
If you are constantly haunted by the fear of being abandoned, often sacrifice your desires and interests for the sake of your loved one, and spend a significant part of your time and energy to meet the needs of others, then you may be in a codependent relationship.
If you see signs of codependency in your behavior, take this 30-question quiz. The test is based on the Friel Co-Dependency Assessment Inventory (Friel, 1985; Friel & Friel, 1987) and will help you assess your level of codependency with a high degree of validity.
Answer honestly, but do not spend too much time dwelling on any one question. There are no right or wrong answers. Note this test is intended solely for informational, educational, and entertainment purposes; its results cannot replace the actual help of a specialist and should not be used for making any decision or as a specialist's advice.
1. Sometimes I feel like I just waste a lot of time and don't get anywhere.
2. I take good enough care of myself.
3. I am happy about the way my family communicated when I was growing up.
4. I tend to idealize my partner.
5. I have an excessive concern for my partner's behaviors.
6. When looking back at my relationship within the last year, I can't remember many happy moments.
7. I have tried to help someone else pay their debts or continue their drug, gambling or another problem.
8. I have difficulty sleeping due to the another person's problems.
9. My friends or family members have asked why am I still in a relationship with another person.